Shallow in a sad world

I write this post while thinking about my dear friends who have recently suffered the loss of a parent. Last week I drove Kevin and Randy to the airport so they could attend Kevin’s Father’s funeral and the other morning I picked them up as they made their way to the funeral of Randy’s Mother. It’s a straight road to the airport with surprisingly little traffic during what would be rush hour in most cities of this size. I like being alone in the car, singing along to my favourite artists, watching the all too familiar landmarks whisk by, cursing just a little as I find myself behind a farmer who thinks it’s ok to use this high speed highway to move his tractor from one corner of his property to another. But on this drive I find myself thinking about the blog, my lighthearted treatise about all things shallow, and I wonder how it is that I can possibly continue amongst all of this sadness. How can I write about being shallow when so many people around me are hurting? I’m not sure I know how to be shallow in a sad world.

There’s not much time at the airport for niceties as we load bags into the car before the parking monitor notices I am stopped in the middle of the lane, but as the door closes and we exchange our signature “Hey Friend” greeting I am comforted in knowing that everything seems to be the way it should be. I’m taking my two friends home. There’s no beating around the bush, no polite banter. In this car we get right to the point.

“How”, I ask, “do you expect me to write the shallow blog amid so much sadness?”
They both laugh and without any hesitation say, “Guess you’ll just have to write about being shallow and sad.”
“Sure, I can do that…Sure”.

Well, I’ve thought about this for a couple of days and have finally come to the conclusion that it’s ok for shallow people to be sad sometimes. The loss of a parent is very sad. All of us who have been there know this to be true. My Father passed away more than 21 years ago and not a day goes by that I don’t think about him, what he might say, advice he might give. There is no doubt that he lives forever in my heart. And that’s the way it should be. As sad as it may be there is an order to life and this is it. At least we hope it is because anything else would be unbearable. We grieve and slowly but surely we return to the normality of our daily lives. We are living proof that life does go on.

And so today it’s too hard to be lighthearted. Today I am sad for my friends who have lost their parents. But before too long I’ll get back to writing the shallow blog in the manner to which you and I have become accustomed. I’m ok with that and I hope you are too.

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6 thoughts on “Shallow in a sad world

  1. wader says:

    I don’t think that shallow and sad are mutually exclusive. It would be un-human to feel or be anything less than sad considering the circumstances. It’s a fitting post for a thoroughly depressing situation. The wounds won’t heal but with time it’s hopefully that they will fade.

  2. Barbara Didie Dulberg says:

    Wendy: I am here with a friend Coleen, and we are reading your blog together, and I think
    you may have a new follower. She is quite intrigued with your shallow self, and would like to
    explore your blogs further. I am very sorry for Kevin and Randy’s loss, and so close together, very hard to take. I am looking forward to seeing you soon. xxoo D.

    • wcaplan says:

      I LOVE new followers and glad to know Coleen is willing to read this stuff. 😉 I’m looking forward to seeing you too when I am in TO in a couple of weeks.

  3. Louisa says:

    That’s a beautiful tribute to your dad.

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